My First Marriage Proposal :) 11-11-2007

Finally after loads of thought as to what i should do and what i shouldn’t i decided to go home and enjoy diwali with family…. My family needed me and the festival would have been a lack-luster event had i not been there…. Returning today and brooding over the events that happened… brings a smile on my face….

Went there for 4.5 days…. Diwali day went in usual diwali rituals and stuffs…. The next day (new Year day) too went as a normal new year day – meeting relatives and relishing sweets …. But the show stealer was sunday evening (11th Nov 2007)…. after lunch around 3 PM pops told me that he’s scheduled a “chhokri jovano” occasion (for Marriage seeing a girl) at one of the places…. I was expecting it of late but not like this…. it was like…. everything muted for a couple of seconds after he said so….. I was like…. “khudko to sambhal nahi sakte ladki kya sambhalenge”…. Seriously…. Everyone is frustrated in the world and think that one should get settled asap…. but for me…. my future is still undecided…. i don’t know where i m going….. don’t know what to do…. and getting married and all is a bit too much to remove my solitude… mom gave me an option that if i like a girl i can be engaged to her and can extend it for a year or so…. at first it sounded cool…. Also it wasn’t required from my side to commit this early No point thinking much this early…. But the only reason i agreed was because pops had given commitment and so i went to keep his word……

So around 4.30PM we left our home…. Her home’s in chandkheda (which is some 15/20 km from our place) all along the way i was thinking what’s gonna happen and how things are gonna shape up…. in the background i also recalled about Priya but now its past…. no point thinking much about it…. Dad knew that they lived somewhere along the new CG Road.. So once we entered the road dad called Dr Madhubhai (her father) and he led us to his place… We parked the car outside the society and carried on…. We were received by the girl’s mom, supposedly girl’s brother and supposedly girl’s sister all comforted each other and greeted happy diwali in a way that everyone knew all since birth but i guess thats the drama that happens everytime when meets like these happen…. One more thing…. Dad told me that Dr Madhubhai is a very cool calm guy and likes to talk it out…. So i went in with a preparation that I too am no less and considered it a battle to be won tooth and nail…. No hard feelings though, its just one of those usual personal tests i do on myself….

Before going to their place i asked mom what all things need to be considered…. she said :
1) Girl’s Family – What dad does, bro/sis do and how well they are placed
2) Girl’s House – How sound they are financially (We don’t have dowry funda back in Gujarat)
3) Girl’s Education and looks
4) (Added by me) Her maturity and attitude towards life

We settled ourselves on the comfortable sofa-set they had and started admiring their place…. It was a nice home…. It was one of those rare occasions when i found a home to be as good as ours…. with well placed furniture and nicely contrasted varnish…. all in all house was pretty good…. Requirement #2 meted out fine…. Her pops was a doc and her bro as well as sis were doing their medical…. All in all a pretty well educated and well placed family…. Requirement #1 also fulfilled…. for around 30 minutes odd we discussed about them and us and their home and all…. Her brother was pretty quiet…. No issues…. the other girl who sat near the dining table was much into her TV…. surprisingly for most of the part she was watching the ‘Detailed Analysis’ of the Indo-Pak cricket match that India won…. We went around to have a look at their home…. had similar configuration as that of ours…. one hall/dining/bedroom/kitchen on the ground floor and on the second floor it had 2/3 rooms with very bright colours…. in a way it looked pretty cool in a way a little flashy too…. in one of the rooms i guess was the girl whom we had come to see…. I didn’t look much at her just had a glimpse…. It looked like she was studying something…. I tried to be a ‘dahyo damro chhokro’ and just walked down the stairs back to the place i was seated…. I guess we had loads of this superficial talks and came back on track…. After another brief chat and then there was a pause…. I felt awkward and broke the ice by admiring the painting in front of me…. I was kicking myself for raising such an idiotic topic but in the anxiety and tension i just couldn’t think much Again some few sentences spoken and then a pause…. i was gesturing with my sis and then her dad asked her mom – “Bolo?” (i.e. say wat to do)…. She said “Jamine jao” (have dinner) i was like…. all here are doing this for the first time…. Then her dad started introducing each other one by one – first his wife then the son and then he said that the girl sitting there is his daughter who completed the 7th sem of EC at DDIT till now i was thinking that the girl studying upstairs was the one…. All the equations broke…. All calculations were rendered inconsequential…. I was so ashamed or felt shy that i didn’t even look at her… I was lost by that time…. again some pause and then mom told “chalo jaiye”…. I thought isn’t the guy asked to sit and talk with the girl…. we went out wished each other a very happy new year…. We went out and started to wear the footwear…. i was tied my shoelace when my dad whispered – if u wana have a chat u can have it…. I too thought lets have a brief chat…. Atleast i’ll come to know what a girl thinks and all….

I went inside and sat down on the sofa where i sat before…. The girl came and sat at the other end of the sofa…. It was the first time i had a good look at the girl…. She is beautiful…. No doubt… Also in her eyes i could c the confidence which i admire …. i could c that she had the courage to stand up and face the ‘tough’ situation (It was tough for me)…. It eased out the pressure i was under….. I thought a girl at 21 would be too shy to talk rather at that particular moment i thought that its ok as she looked pretty cool and composed with what all was going on…. I sat there and exchanged a smile and was left speechless as to what to say…. for some 2/3 seconds i guess both of us were getting settled…. I don’t exactly recall how all started…. I think the talk started by me saying that I thought that the girl whom i came to c was the one on the first floor Both of us smiled and she told that everyone mistakes her to be the elder one…..or Maybe i told her that her home is pretty nice and about her room…. She said that the purple one on the first floor was hers…. I then i guess apologized for the torn informal clothes i was wearing…. She said with a smile its ok…. I asked about her college…. Chat went on pretty Ok…. we discussed about our respective lives, hobbies, choices, likes-dislikes…. movies…. etc.. etc… I think i was the main contibutor but she too was pretty open to talk and i liked that in her…. she didn’t do that well in her examinations but she stood by it and took responsibility of it honestly…. I liked that quality of her very much…. Study and marks are superficial things…. Most imp thing is whether the other person likes to face the storm or look for cover…. She stood firm….. Lucky me….. Till that time i wasn’t considering it sincerely but then i realized she’s a lot matured for her age and I should start thinking it with a lot more seriousness…..

We talked about movies – she likes action and thrill movies so we shared some of our best ones…. Discussed about college life and even bf/gfs…. Anyways it rounded up well and we left…. No comments on what i felt after it…. or what i thought of her afterwards…. But after giving a lot of thought to the events that occured I will say that the meet was pretty immature…. the events that followed were pretty much the same…. lets c how all go further…. I need time…. I need time to forget the past and focus on present….